To be the main character in your own life means to be the protagonist. It means to be the hero of your own life movie. But stepping into that role may not be easy for most of us who’ve spent our lives playing supporting roles. Here is a simple but effective list of tips on how you can harness main character energy in your own life.
How to be the main character in your life
Live with purpose
The first step to harnessing major main character energy is to live your life on purpose. You only have one life, so don’t let this one pass you by without going after the goals, dreams, and desires that you really want for yourself.
Live your life to the fullest
Your life is not a dress rehearsal. It is happening right now. Stop putting things off. Create a bucket list and start doing the things that you most want to do.
As you embark on this journey of being the main character in your own life, don’t lose sight of the important relationships in your life. Be there for the people who matter to you most and work hard to cultivate the relationships you desire.
Keep in mind that true friends are scarce. When you are fortunate to have them in your life, keep them there. Also, recognize that other people have a right to be the main character in their own lives, and you will need to play a supporting role in their journeys even as you pursue your own. You can do both.
Continually work on yourself
Insecurities and a lack of self-confidence can really hamper your progress as the main character. If there are aspects of your life that make you feel insecure, don’t let them hold you back. You are stronger than them. Figure out a way to get around them.
As the main character in your life, you need to be comfortable with setting boundaries with other people. When you know what you want, you need to be okay with removing things and relationships that no longer serve you.
Be the writer, producer, director, and actor of your own movie
Pretend you have all those roles, because you actually do. Write (or visualize) the script. Now start producing and directing your life so that the movie turns out the way you want it to.
Be enthusiastic about your life
If you cannot be enthusiastic and excited about your life, what does that mean for your future?
Knowing how to be the main character of your life doesn’t mean that you need to know what you want. Rather, it means recognizing your passions and allowing yourself to indulge in them.
When you know what you love, consciously put yourself in situations where you can indulge in them. If you love hiking in the woods, for example – make time to do it, instead of making excuses about how other things are more important. You are important too, and you can figure out how to design a life where you can honor your commitments and enjoy the things you love.
Don’t allow fear to hold you back
Fear can be paralyzing, but understand that if you are going to be the main character of your own spectacular movie , you cannot allow room for fear. Main characters:
- know what their goals are;
- figure out the steps they need to take to reach those goals, then;
- plan their lives around those steps.
This doesn’t mean we don’t feel fear. Of course we do. Our goals are stronger than our fears.
How to harness main character energy without alienating others
Only use your main character energy when necessary
Instead of using your main character energy as a permanent condition, think of it as a resource you can draw on to improve your life. When you’re feeling low or insignificant, take some of this power into yourself. Whether you’re preparing for a job interview, trying to impress a date, or speaking in front of a group, picturing yourself as the main character can help you bring out your best attributes.
Be considerate of other movies playing at the same time
You may be the main character in your life, but someone else is trying to be a main character in their lives, too. Respect that. Being the main character (in your movie) should not diminish others from being the main character in their movies.
Always consider your supporting cast
When we can balance our own and other people’s needs and opinions, our relationships flourish. This is important because there are always going to be people who play supporting roles in your life. In order for you to feel that main character energy, you do not need to devalue or demean them (like some famous actors).
Don’t disregard the importance of the people around you. Also, keep people around you who can lovingly criticize you or put you in your place when necessary.
Use main character energy as a form of self care
Connecting with yourself a healing act. Spend some time doing things you enjoy. Take care of yourself as if you were the most important person in the world. You can do this without alienating others.