It is natural for us to compare ourselves with others, but in doing so, we tend to feel worse about ourselves. We also have a finite amount of energy, so it makes no sense to actively participate in an activity that makes you feel horrible about yourself. Wouldn’t it make more sense to spend your energy on things that serve your well-being? Below are 11 simple, easy-to-implement ways to help you stop comparing yourself with others.
How to stop comparing yourself to others
Get some perspective.
Flowers are beautiful, and so are sunsets, but they look nothing alike. There is already beauty in you, as you are now. By comparing yourself with others, you’re wasting time and energy on what is not you and denying the beauty that is already within you.
Don’t compare your beginning with someone else’s end.
Social media does not reflect reality. What you are seeing on social media is likely not the complete picture. It’s a highlight. It’s been staged and filters added.
Catch yourself in the moment.
When you catch yourself thinking comparative thoughts, kill them with powerful affirmations.
You will change your perspective on life when you start being grateful for your blessings instead of obsessing over what you don’t have. You can be grateful for what you have while working on what you want.
Focus on your strengths.
You may not be able to do something as great as another person, but you have your own strengths, which you can be proud of. Remember that the grass is greener where you water it. Stop looking at someone else’s grass and water your own.
Unlock the power of contentment.
Being content doesn’t mean you’re stagnant, or that you don’t have goals. Contentment means that you are in a state of satisfaction and joy, regardless of the circumstances.
Change your mindset.
Instead of feeling jealous of someone else’s success, be happy for them because now you have a blueprint of how you, too, can succeed.
Remember that we all grow at different rates.
Everyone’s growth looks different.
Understand that someone else’s win doesn’t mean it’s your loss.
There is enough good fortune for everyone. By begrudging someone else’s luck or fortune, you are wasting energy on growing your own fortune.
Compete with yourself, not others.
Once again, energy is finite and you’re wasting energy by comparing or competing with others. Instead, look at where you are today versus where you were a year or a month ago.
Limit your time on social media.
Is social media bringing you joy, or is it draining you? If you feel drained after some time on social media, it is clearly not serving you.